Conscious Sex: Sexual Energy is a Powerful Force, that when used consciously, can be a great catalyst for spiritual growth and healing on many levels.

Conscious Sex:
Surrendering to the Bliss of Sexual Energy as a Path to Healing and Growth

BY DR. JUDITH ORLOFF

Sexual Energy is a Powerful Force, that when used consciously, can be a great catalyst for spiritual growth and healing on many levels.

The following article is based on Dr. Orloff’s bestselling book The Power of Surrender.

To manifest your full sexual energy you have to surrender. There’s no way around it. You must completely inhabit your body and be in the moment. If not now, when? Holding back, fixating on performance, or letting your mind drift is the end of passion. Don’t go there. I’ll show you how to get out of your head and into your bliss.

What is true sexual energy? I define it as proudly claiming your erotic self andmindfully channeling sexual energy. You never use it to hurt, manipulate, make conquests, or get addicted to the ego trip of sensual pleasure at the expense of others. This is bad karma. Nor do you allow others to harm or disrespect you. Sexual energy is not just who you are in bed, though that’s an aspect of it. You also make electric linkages to your body, to spirit, to a lover, to the universe. For me, it’s a turn-on when sexual power is blended with spiritual power.

Too many of us in this heady, frantic world lack the rich experience of having a primal connection with someone. Sexual energy can offer us this, a satisfaction you can never get from your intellect alone. As you open to both sex and spirit, whether you’re single or part of a couple, you’ll be a vessel for erotic flow, enjoying pleasure without insecurities or inhibitions.

We’ll discuss many fun approaches for letting go that you can integrate into your lifestyle. Don’t worry if you can’t succeed all of the time. Be happy with every bit of progress. Here are some general tips to keep in mind to improve your sexual energy. The more you can practice them, for short or longer periods, the more sexually alive you’ll be.

Basic Strategies of Surrender

+ Surrender your “to-do” list, making time for sensuality and lovemaking.

+ Surrender your overactive, critical “monkey mind” that kills passion and stops you from being present in your body.

+ Surrender to pleasure as completely as possible.

+ Let yourself melt into the ecstasy of orgasm and become one with your partner.

Sexual energy is something to revere and consciously cultivate. You can’t just leave it to chance. When I get up in the morning, the first thing I do is meditate. I want to connect to myself, to every ounce of spiritual energy, heart energy, and erotic energy in me. 

I do this before any of life’s demands interfere. Meditating in this way fortifies me and lets me be fully present. Being in touch with my sexual self is part of being present, along with being analytical or being kind or listening to the angels sing. 

Sexual power is not compartmentalized away from the rest of you. It is more present when you’re whole. So, to begin the day, I offer thanks for every aspect of me, then proceed into the great unknown of the hours ahead.